Specialties
Self-esteem
Self-esteem is the value we place on ourselves, and it largely determines how we relate to the world: what we believe we deserve, what limits we set, and what we allow ourselves to attempt. When it's damaged, everything becomes harder, even if it doesn't always show on the outside.
What low self-esteem is (and isn't)
Low self-esteem doesn't always show up as visible insecurity. It's often hidden behind extreme self-demand, a constant need for approval, difficulty accepting compliments, or a tendency to compare yourself unfavourably with others.
It can also appear as harsh, automatic self-criticism, difficulty recognising your own achievements, or a feeling of "not being enough" in different areas of life: work, relationships or physical appearance.
Where it usually comes from
Self-esteem is built throughout life from experiences, relationships and messages received, especially in childhood and adolescence. Repeated criticism, comparisons, disproportionate demands or a lack of recognition can leave a mark that carries into adult life.
More recent experiences also play a role: relationships where you haven't felt valued, failures faced with a lot of harshness towards yourself, or very demanding environments (at work or socially).
When might it be time to seek help?
- When it's hard to recognise your achievements or you tend to systematically play them down.
- If you need constant approval from others to feel good about yourself.
- When your self-criticism is harsh, frequent and disproportionate compared to what actually happened.
- If you notice that a lack of confidence in yourself holds you back from making decisions or starting new things.
How we work on self-esteem in therapy
- We explore together where your current way of valuing yourself comes from and which specific situations trigger that self-criticism the most.
- We work to build a steadier, more realistic relationship with yourself, one that doesn't rely exclusively on results or on how others see you.
- The process aims for you to gain your own sense of security, so you can make decisions and relate to others from a firmer place, not from a need for external validation.
Frequently asked questions about self-esteem
Can self-esteem be improved in therapy?
Yes, it's one of the most common reasons people seek therapy. The therapeutic work helps you understand the origin of damaged self-esteem and build a more solid, realistic relationship with yourself.
Is low self-esteem related to anxiety or sadness?
Often, yes, they're connected. In the initial assessment we identify how they connect in your specific case, in order to address it as a whole.
How long does this type of process take?
It isn't possible to give a fixed timeframe, since each person starts from a different situation. Changes in self-esteem take time and are gradual; what matters is moving forward with consistency.
Want to work on self-esteem?
Write to me and let's talk, with no obligation, about your specific situation.